Do you recognise the following situation. You are preparing for a tough assignment, for example a job interview. You feel like a lot depends on this one task, perhaps a promotion or a new job. More importantly, you know that you are being observed and that people will think something of
your performance and therefore also of you. You think of all the possible outcomes and start doubting yourself as a precaution: ‘I really want that job, but I am not that good at job interviews’. Especially in tough situations, people will tend to overthink and get in their own way.
If you want to excel, you first need to know who you are and understand your human design. If you know that you are made to perform well, you are able to create a healthy self-confidence and excel both personally and professionally.
How do you create a healthy self-confidence?
Healthy self-confidence starts with self-awareness. During every moment of our life, our thoughts and feelings send us signals. These signals are very useful, if interpreted correctly. You can think of these signals like lights on your car dashboard. If you know what every light means you can take the proper precautions, but if you don’t it can be very hard to guess what’s going on.
Imagine you are in a tough situation, something you have never done before. This new challenge may give you a variety of thoughts and feelings, which can be perceived both positively and negatively. You might feel excited to tackle this new challenge, but you might also feel uncertain or insecure, as you have never done a task like this before. In situations like this your mind can go in all sorts of directions. The direction it chooses will ultimately decide how you will feel in that moment.
In situations like these, it is important to realise that your feelings are signals that tell you what you are thinking. They bring the experience to life and make it feel real. Yes you are experiencing a feeling of insecurity and uncertainty, but that’s because you are focused on yourself. You are not present in the moment anymore, which is essential if you want to perform well. If you know your human design, you listen to your feelings, move away from your thoughts of insecurity and realise that you are made to grow, learn new things and excel in life.
However don’t confuse self-confidence with over-confidence. Self-confidence does not mean forcing yourself to perform, it means knowing from deep within that you are made to excel. You can be self-confident and modest at the same time. Modesty is not thinking less of yourself, it is about thinking less about yourself.
Stop limiting yourself and start excelling
When you doubt yourself and start coming up with arguments to avoid a challenge, try to take a good look at yourself and see if your personal thinking is getting in the way. Are you underestimating yourself or are you able to make a well-considered choice based on your healthy self-confidence.
As humans we tend to think ahead of ourselves and try to imagine what will happen in the future. How many times have you had conversations with yourself about situations that ultimately only happened in your head. We come up with these doomsday scenarios, to move away from difficult situations and to start looking for excuses to limit ourselves. However if you want to start excelling, you need to trust your perfect human design and know that you are capable of so much more.
Use what you know to create, to innovate and to excel. That is your nature, that is who you are and that is what you are here for. Not to argue for your limitations, but to show your excellence.